I want to talk to you about something that’s been on my heart lately. I want to talk to you about something that I work hard at doing every single day and that is loving myself. Seems simple right? The way you look at yourself, talk to yourself and even listen to yourself becomes how you present yourself to the world. Loving myself isn’t something that I learned to do overnight, it is something that I consciously practice every day.
Why is loving yourself so important? Because if you can’t see how magical + beautiful you are, how in the hell do you expect anyone else to?
Here’s the thing, love isn’t a feeling. Love is an action. People tend to get the two confused. If there is anyone in your life that is showing you anything less than love, let them go.
- Let go of any toxic/negative influences in your life.
The first step to loving yourself is to let go of the people who don’t love you. This will never be an easy task and it used to be one of the hardest things for me to do. I use to hoard people in my life, it was almost like I collected people’s hearts everywhere I went. I thought that the more love I showed them the more they would love me and unfortunately, life doesn’t work like that. I spent so much time trying to fix and love people that I ended up being last on that list. Toxic and negative people are VERY good at sucking the life out of you.
As selfish as it may sound, YOU always come first. You come before anyone or anything in this world. When you put yourself first, you are able to be the best version of yourself.
So, if someone isn’t showing you the love you deserve, let them go.
2. Step out of your comfort zone
This is the quickest way to ignite your inner badass. The things that scare the hell out of you are usually the things worth taking a chance on. Don’t let the what-ifs cripple you. You are capable of so much, babe.
I am such a perfectionist it hurts. I overthink and overanalyze every.single.thing. It’s definitely something I’m working on… lol. But you know the feeling when something seems terrifying and scares the literal shit out of you but you do it anyway? Those are the moments that allow us to grow and become a better version of ourselves.
Public speaking was terrifying to me. That might seem surprising to those that know me because 9/10 they can’t get me to shut up. But, something about getting in front of a crowd and talking made me wanna vom. My voice always shook so much and I would get really dizzy. One day I was just like F-it, I’m going to speak in front of these people and own it. I am not perfect, I make mistakes and so do they. I did it and it wasn’t any less terrifying but the second it was over, I knew it could do it. So, I started to volunteer myself to public speak. I would make myself raise my hand in class, I would even speak at colleges to students about entrepreneurship. I put myself in uncomfortable positions to allow myself to grow until it wasn’t uncomfortable anymore. Now, I enjoy public speaking.
3. Eat healthy + be active
This is your golden ticket to feeling more happy with yourself. When you eat like shit, you feel like shit. Fueling your body with healthy foods is key to feeling better about yourself. Being active is equally as important as eating healthy. Find a workout routine and allow that time to be your time. I personally like working out because it’s my time to myself where I’m in the zone and no one can bother me.
If a hard workout isn’t your thing, try walking on the treadmill on incline. I’ve been doing this recently and I love it. Sometimes I’ll read a book (or check emails) while doing it. It can be efficient and still good for you.
4. Take time to do the things you love to do
Want to know what I absolutely LOVE doing? This may be weird but I love putting my headphones on and scrolling through poetry. Something about it makes me feel like I’ve escaped for a little bit, like nothing else matters. The words and music in my ears allow me to reconnect with my soul. It refreshes me and motivates me.
It doesn’t have to be something “relaxing”, hell if your thing is skydiving, do it. Just take time to do something for YOU and only you.
5. Compliment yourself
Yup, tell yourself that your ass looks fab today or that your skin is glowing. Don’t wait around for anyone to remind you that you are beautiful. Remind yourself that you are beautiful. Before I put my makeup on in the morning, I take a good hard look at the person staring back at me. She is powerful, filled with so much love and perfect just the way she is. Please do this for yourself. You’ve come way too far to not give yourself some credit.
Be patient with yourself. Loving yourself can be hard because you know all of your imperfections, secrets, fears and mistakes but you also know what sets your soul on fire.
I love you,
xx – B
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